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A friendship that needs to be shut down

| Sunday, April 27, 2014

You know that friend that seems to know everything and everyone, but doesn’t seem to know anything about you? I’m having problems with a friend like this, but I can’t seem to shut him off. He once was the apple of my eye, but now I feel disconnected from him. Let me tell you a little bit about my relationship with this friend. I see him everyday and I feel like I rely on him too much. Even though I really appreciate always having him back me up, I think it would be really beneficial for me to get away from him for a while because I feel like he monitors everything I do.

It took a lot for me to realize that we have an unhealthy relationship, but I think recognition is a healthy step towards dealing with the problem. I realized that he is literally always there for me, yet I tend to ignore his basic needs and complain when he does anything wrong.

I rely on him heavily for homework help, but we typically just end up on Facebook or Pinterest, and then I just blame him when I realize I’m behind. I can’t complain though; he’s my social outlet, my go-to for homework help and my comfort when I’m bored.

He’s one of those friends who is well-informed and well-connected, but he literally has no filter. Almost every night he interrupts my work to warn me I use him too much and he’s running out of energy to keep up with me. One time he even told me too much of my life is pouring into his space.

It makes me feel so isolated when I spend hours alone with him and we don’t actually get anything done. Word is, I’m not the only one who complains about how slow he can get. Despite his tendency to lag behind, he’s always eager to be kept up to date. I know I’m not giving him enough credit for what he’s worth. When we’re together we do plenty of fun things: iMessage, iChat, iWeb, iPhoto, iMovie, iBook, iPad, iPod, but for goodness sake Mac, in order to save this relationship, I think its time we unplug.

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